Honking doesn't turn me on

It doesn't.

In fact, despite of what some men might believe the same goes for most women: we do NOT get turned on by honking. On the contrary.

Okay, I won't go all 'men are pigs' on you. Because, A. I kind of like men, and B. I would be insulting the pigs. And there are a lot of great guys out there. Just wanted to point that out.

So, on a more serious note, I do NOT have a problem with men in general. It's just the honking, the 'hello, hottie', the 'Phieuw-ieuw' (uhm...whistling?), the cars pulling over, the cycling next to you and talking to you at the same time, and the butt grabbing kind of men that annoy the heck out of me. When I'm running, that is. It's not just annoying actually (I can handle annoying), sometimes it's down right creepy.

Example: yesterday's 15+-miler took me through a forest. I was running next to a somewhat busy road, but still...trees everywhere. Beautiful. And then a car with four guys in it pulled over, honking, started driving next to me at my pace, and the guys were yelling at me ('need a lift?', 'nice legs', 'hello, hotness'...the usual 'funny' stuff). And then it hit me. There weren't a lot of runners and cyclists at the trail I was on. And the cars were driving by fast. If these guys would drag me into their car, no one would know. I was creeped out. And up to that point I felt safe. Those guys took that away from me. Literally. Last night I had a nightmare about what ditches one could drag and drop a body into. Needless to say that I didn't get a whole lot of sleep.

Does the outfit matter?

When I told one of my co-workers about this incident this morning, her reply was 'were you wearing a running skirt?'. Yes, I was (and I was also wearing a long sleeve, hat and compression socks - fully covered), but does that justify the pulling over and following me? In my opinion, it doesn't. Plus, whether I'm wearing a skirt or shorts or tights, it doesn't really matter anyway: the honking continues. Apparently a girl on her (long) run is an extreme turn-on to some guys. And considering all the sweating, burping and farting that's going on when I'm on my long run, I don't get that. But that's not the point.

Feel turned on if you feel like it. It's fine with me. I just have one teeny tiny request. Please don't express it in a way that creeps me out. And that involves (endless) honking and pulling over.

To all the good 'non-creeping female runners out' guys out there: please tell those 'honking and pulling over' types to drop the act. ;)


Jessie said...

I was running last week and had 3 guys standing on the side of the road and I could feel them staring at me. It made me feel so uncomfortable. I wish guys would understand how creepy it is to gawk! Your right its not flattering at ALL! Im really sorry you had that happen! It is scary and I wish guys would get it that its really does make us feel insecure or frightened instead of flattered!

Quinton J said...

I'm not a honker. It's just not my style. However...sometimes when I'm out on a topless summer run...I get honks...and I must admit... don't mind it. Once a lady almost hit a bus shelter and there were people in it. I DO mind that! Watch the damn road.

Geek 3000 said...

Be careful! I hate to say that being out on your own can be sketchy, but it really can. I always run in areas with lots of kids, families and traffic, like highly visible traffic. I live in a safe area, but we still get women nicked off the trails and not seen again. There are wonderful men out there, but there are also lots of animals. Be safe!

Amber @ Betty Meets Jane said...

It is really just gross. It really ruins a run for me. I try not to pay attention and usually it is a short event, but still. Gross.

Jamie said...

I hate honking! It drives me crazy. Especially when I'm focused and really enjoying the run, somebody ruins it with a super loud HONK! So annoying.

the dawn said...

i'm totally with you! there is no excuse for them being so ridiculous even if you are wearing a skirt. guys are drawn to female runners no matter how many layers of sweatpants and hoodies we wear. they will oogle us just the same.

sorry you had to go through that! so creepy!

Beth said...

Ugh, that kind of behavior is NOT OK!!! Its harassment and can be very scary, especially if you are by yourself. I wish men we taught to not do this!! Sorry you had such a bad experience!

Emz said...

I loved this


I once had a car honk at me.
i flipped him off
he stuck his head out the window and said.....

"you should be honored".


misszippy said...

What I hate is that it shouldn't matter what you wear...women should be able to run and not get nervous!

Ms. Duffy said...

It's so NOT ABOUT what you're wearing... I think it's about the guys' sense of entitlement, and it makes me really really mad that it effs up an awesome thing like your long run... sorry you had to (continue to) go through that!

Zoƫ said...

Ugh. Honking is annoying.
(that's funny what EMZ said above)

Silly Girl Running said...

Thanks, all! :)

@ Quinton: Well...I would honk at a muscled up guy running topless. ;) Does that make me a bad person? ;)

Karen said...

It is annoying and can be a little scary too. Especially if they are pulling over. Yikes! I think it would freak me out...